I have been thinking about taking a personal retreat since shortly after Elijah was born. I was so sleep deprived that all I could think about was sleep, glorious sleep. In those early days, I am sure I believed that I was never going to get to a full 8 hours of sleep again. So I told Paul that once I was not pumping anymore I wanted a night away by myself.

Eventually, sleep became more of a regular occurrence in my life. So, the idea of getting away for the sole purpose of sleeping sounded a bit crazy. But, I really liked the idea of time way. The more I started thinking about a retreat, the more I realized I wanted a time that purposeful in relaxation and refreshment.

So, in typical Charity fashion, I put together a plan, really a 4 page proposal. I wanted to have something to guide my time away.

{May Reflections}


Accountability is hard! 

{Elijah James - 15 Months}


Elijah James you are 15 months!
You are growing in leaps and bounds! Your walking has become more confident and you even enjoy running around. While you seem to like walking, you love to dance! Sometimes you turn on music by yourself using your toy jungle set. Sometimes you wave and look at the Amazon Echo and wait for us to turn on music. When dancing you will often run around, clap, and squat down. It is the best! You like it when we sing “If you’re happy and you know it” and you are even starting to get the stomping down. 



I have been carrying a weight. It has been a sensation that has settled into my chest, adjacent to my heart. I thought it was anxiety. That I have been worrying about too many things. I have worried about my role as mother and what the future holds for me as a school counselor. I have worried about my role as a wife and my role as a daughter of God. There are choices upon me and decisions to make. I worry about making the wrong decision. That I could mess something up, mess myself up, or mess up another person.  

{April Reflections}


Wow, April got away from me and now May is picking up speed. I had such good intentions for my April Goals and other than what I read, I did not make very much progress. I am hoping that May goes a bit better, I mean it has to, it is my birthday month J

{March Reflections}


Can I just say, I am thrilled to see March fade away? What a tough month! March is the longest month of school/work without any type of break. Student behavior seems to intensify during the month. Staff gets grumpy. Sickness has been running rampant in the Oremland household. The bright spot has been the sunshine. It has been so lovely to see so much blue sky. 

Okay, onto reflecting!

{haves & gets}


I am stubborn and I am selfish.

I have known that I was stubborn since I was young. I have heard this from my parents, from friends, my sister, and my husband. I get it. I think stubborn can be good, and of course it can have negative implications.

I have a harder time resonating with the fact that I am selfish. I have always considered myself a fairly good person, which left little room in my mind for being selfish. It was not very far into my relationship with Paul where he told me I was being selfish. I could not believe it! There was no way he could be right, but he was. Our relationship, and then our marriage was an eye opener to my selfish ways.